We have all been there. It could be a friend, a partner, a family member, a coworker. We are getting along well, time passes, and we begin to feel used, annoyed, or resentful.
What happened?
It is common for those with unresolved trauma (meaning, you haven't done trauma work) have a higher sense of danger due to the amygdala in your brain being on high alert, pumping cortisol into your body, causing you to see danger everywhere.
It could be a comment someone made. Or an action. Or perhaps, some hearsay.
You hear it and wonder, are they mocking me? Are they putting me down?
Fear rises, and you begin to pull back. You don't feel safe. You don't want to get hurt again.
This is known as hypervigilance.
If this is you, know there is trauma therapy that can change all of that. It's call EMDR, Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing. Look for a therapist well versed in EMDR.
It can change your life.