How we perceive others, events, and individuals says a lot about us. For those who have suffered trauma, perception tends to be tilted due to a perceived sense of danger, which includes seeing insult and put down where none was intended.
Such individuals may think they are fine. It's those around them who scratch their heads trying to understand why they are upset, again; why this outburst; what happened that this little incident has now become a major upset?
It's because individuals who have suffered trauma have a increased sense of danger, called "hypervigilance." This is due to the amygdala having been heightened during the trauma, and not coming back down to "normal." The sensitivity causes us to be on our guard, whether we are aware of it or not.
If we find ourselves sensitive to certain individuals, events or comments, we may be suffering from this hypervigilance. It is something that happens in the brain, not a willful "I will always be always offended by others who disagree with me" attitude.
How do we overcome this? I recommend EMDR, which processes the trauma and allows the amygdala to return to normal. EMDR teaches us how to reframe our thoughts, meaning, giving more than one interpretation to an event, a word, or an action. This is not justifying another's abusive action. It is learning how to not take things personally.
If this blog speaks to you, don't suffer another minute. Find an EMDR therapist so that you can be freed from the effects of trauma. Research has shown that talk therapy does not process trauma. You need a trauma therapist.
I see many individuals who experience a balanced life after doing EMDR. The roller coaster of emotions ceases, the fear diminishes, their self-esteem increases, and they report peace and joy. You can join this group. Do yourself a favor and seek out the proper kind of help.