Amy G Nash
The Ultimate Healing: Supportive Friends
Trauma is isolating. There are many reasons for this: fear of judgement from others, feeling we don't fit in or just shutting down because we hear so much about being surrounded by "positive" individuals we get the message that no one wants to listen to our struggles.
Healing from trauma requires various things, but nothing is quite as important as a circle of good friends. And that circle can be composed of one.
How do you know a good friend? Here are a few guidelines.
When times are hard, they do not abandon you with explanations that they are busy, or simple don't answer your calls or texts, or give vague excuses or limit their time with you.
They listen to you and don't immediately launch into solutions you should take.
You feel accepted for who you are, and not judged for who you are not.
They show up to support you by inviting you to spend time with them.
They know how to sit in silence with you when you are struggling.
One person like this will be healing for you. It takes time and work and risking to find such a friend.
Seek this friend. It will be well worth the time and effort.